Question about aadd in women?

I went to the doc and only slightly suggested I think I have aadd, and she said everybody says that, just because they want the meds. but I thought I was just dingy and ditsy blonde all my life. I'm now in 40's. But what I wouldnt give for memory in my brain , and not being organized , distracted all the time , I feel like I am just messed up mentally, sometimes. what do you think I should do. Is there any help. I am not the hyper type of add